I’ve had the same psychiatrist for the past 9 years. At first he was great. I felt as though he cared, as though he believed in me even when I didn’t believe in me. I shed many a tear in his office but felt motivated to keep trying when I left our appointments.
Over the years, slowly, things began to change. My reward for being a loyal patient seemed to be shorter and ever more terse appointments.
Eventually I was seeing him for about fifteen minutes every three months for a prescription refill and a brief chat that often sounded like this;
“You’re still off work because of your chronic pain problems? It seems much of your depression is tied to the loss of your career.”
“Yes, and I would give anything to be deemed fit enough to go back.”
“You’ve had a hard time but you have to find other things to replace what your job did for you. I think it will be difficult. I would be very upset if I could no longer practice.”
“I’ve been focusing on art and writing as much as I can but it never seems to fully fills the void.”
“Well, keep working at it. Be positive. Here’s your perscription I’d like to see you again in about three months.”
I was delighted one day when he asked about what kind of art mediums I was working with. He seemed genuinely interested and even gave me an assignment.
“I want you to paint a self portrait by our next appointment. Paint how you see yourself. Let’s book a month from now. You bring the painting then and we’ll discuss what it means to you and how it makes you feel.”
I agreed with a smile, “challenge accepted!” and fairly skipped out of his office. I’d never considered a self portrait before, preferring to draw others instead, but the introspection of the assignment intrigued me.
I began my portrait that day with a little help from my art teacher at Grasby Art Studio. I finished my portrait in record time and was thrilled with it which surprised me as I generally don’t like pictures of myself.
I eagerly awaited my appointment and, when the time came, proudly carried my canvas into the Dr’s office.
“I finished the assignment you gave me last time. Would you like to see it?”
He glanced at my file with a confused look.
“You asked me to paint a self portrait. To paint myself as I see myself. I enjoyed the project and I brought the painting to show you like you asked.”
He nodded and I presented the piece for him to look at.
“That’s not really my taste. I don’t think it looks like you.”
That was the last we spoke of it. Dejectedly I put the painting on the floor and asked for a refill on my meds. I couldn’t wait to flee that office.
This one time I didn’t want him to see me cry. I couldn’t find the strength to get angry at him, defend my artistic liscense. I could only think to attack myself and my stupid, ugly painting.
I have since reminded myself that if I love my self portrait and good for me! Fuck what he thinks. The painting hangs proudly on my bedroom wall now.
After careful consideration I’ve decided instead of ditching my art it’s time to ditch the Doc! Obviously it’s time to move on. I’ve found someone new and I’m not going to look back.
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